The Real Deal: Wrestling Marriages and Relationships In Wrestling
Written By WrestlingTruth.com Columnist Roxanne Springer – ravenbrooks_2000@yahoo.com
It’s very hard being with anyone who is gone about 300 days a year. Feelings of loneliness, neglect, and resentment eventually come to roost within the hearts of those left behind. The invariable pressures of maintaining a home and some sort of a family structure ultimately come to rest on their shoulders.
It’s also very difficult being on the road. Constant traveling, endless culture shock, and ongoing nagging injuries can wear a person down both physically and emotionally. Feelings of guilt, remorse, and regret over missing important family events and occasions just add to the continuing hardships.
When the talent in question does get to spend a few precious days at home there is always the media and the fans to deal with. A simple trip to the mall, a grocery store, or a restaurant can spin into utter chaos and perhaps even a violent scene. “Just a quick phone interview?” “An autograph for my son?” “Yeah I know you’re eating, but just look at this…”. If the performer refuses to take the time from his spouse and family to do those things they are seen as aloof, conceited, and ungrateful for their celebrity status.
I don’t believe many wrestling marriages and relationships end because the participants don’t love each other. They break up because of the strains of long distance love. They fall prey to the hardships of being with someone who is adored by millions. They wither and die due to the fact that nurturing a thriving relationship or maintaining a healthy marriage via the phone or email is virtually impossible.
Some marriages and relationships have worked out; they are not all doomed to failure. I think those that have survived are forged with an understanding of what it truly is to be married to a person of fame. They are kept intact by people who realize how to handle the dreadful feelings that can erode a romantic union until it is well beyond salvation. A wrestling husband or wife needs to realize the business will always come first.
Everyone needs to have compassion for all the wrestlers and their families. As fans we need to respect their privacy and let them lead a normal a private life as possible. If we truly love our superstars we need to do what we can to help them all keep what is so very dear to their own hearts.
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Well said.
Mick Foley used to be one of my customers (along with other celebs) when I worked at a pet store on Long Island. I knew who he was but I never went “Oh my god! It’s Mankind!” or anything like that (though some of my co-workers fell prey to such ramblings). I never acknowledged him as anything but a customer and treated him as such.
I felt bad when he would be in the store and suddenly get swamped by children and adults alike. C’mon. The poor guy was just trying to buy shavings for his kid’s guinea pigs! Or when he would be in the store with his family and people would surround them.
He ALWAYS took the time to sign any piece of paper thrust his way but one day he was in a hurry and told the kids he had a lot of errands to run and he was sorry he couldn’t take the time. Well… The parents were irate at that when he left. “Who does he think he is!” “He couldn’t take two minutes to sign something for a 5 year old!” “He’s not a very nice man!” and the rampage went on and on.
He had been a customer of mine for over 3 years and I told those people to lay off of him. If he would have done 1 autograph, he would end up being there for a half an hour (which I had seen happen on several occasions). As for his disposition, Mick Foley is one of the nicest people out there and for the record, he dresses exactly the same as he does on TV.
These are people like you and me and they have lives to live. If you see them, just leave them alone. They have a right to be in public and have the right to their personal privacy.
but wat if the wife cant handle it? like she supports him and wat not. and they been together for like 10 years way before he started. like high school sweethearts. do u think it works out then? and if so how?